High stress, unpopular decisions, and constant pressure to perform can take it’s tole. As a leader, you may always feel that you have to be on point. This can be exhausting! So what can you do to keep your emotions in check when you have so much coming at you?
It’s true that only other leaders understand the stress that you face on a regular basis. Ironically, most are too prideful to talk about it. We’ve learned to not trust others, or believe that everyone wants something from us. This type of incorrect thinking will just drive you farther into isolation.
Walking with a friend in the dark is better than walking alone in the light. -Helen Keller
We leaders pride ourselves on being self-sufficient. We minimize our own emotions and problems and think if we ignore them, somehow they will go away. So, we drown our self in business, trying to obtain that next goal. But what you don’t realize is that you’re screaming 90mph down a dead end road.
3 Dangers for Leaders Who Ignore Emotional Health
1. Burnout. Working unrealistically long hours, always being available to others, and trying to please everyone will eventually take it’s tole on you. When the wick runs out on a candle, you have to replace the candle. That’s exactly what will happen to you once you burnout.
2. Unhealthy addictions. When leaders are unhealthy emotionally they will often try to overindulge in areas of life because at their core, they are an imbalanced person. This can include dabbling in drugs, NEEDING a drink or two at night to “unwind”, overeating, etc. Addictions always start off small, usually only occasional at first. But if left unchecked, will become a functional savior that makes empty promises in the end.
3. Immorality. When leaders are unhealthy emotionally, they will find themselves tempted to run to arms of someone else. Whether this happens virtually or in person, it all leads to the same result…hurt feelings, and broken relationships.
3 Benefits for Leaders Who Make Emotional Health a Priority
1. Peaceful rest. There’s nothing like being able to lay your head on your pillow at night and truly, peacefully sleep. You know that you’ve done all you could have done during the day. You’re not worried about tomorrow or second-guessing decisions that were made today.
2. A balanced life. As a leader, when you put yourself first and allow the time and energy to be used to take care of your own needs, you will be able to help others with a grateful heart. Keeping your own well being a priority allows you to take care of yourself physically, mentally, spiritually, and emotionally. As a result, you then have the resources to help others with in those same areas of their life.
3. Better discernment. When you’re emotionally healthy, you’ll see everything more clearly. Decisions won’t be made out of insecurity, frustration, or fear. Having those emotions in check will allow you to use sounds judgement.
Here are some things I do to keep my emotional health a priority.
1. Keep a list of what I’m thankful for.
2. Spend time in prayer and studying the Bible.
3. Review my reasons WHY I’m trying to achieve a goal.
4. Journal (I use Day One)
5. Take a nap.
6. Go somewhere alone so I can recharge.
QUESTION: So what are you doing to keep your emotions in check? Leave a comment below, and help out some of the others who are in the same position.
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