Friends, Fans, and Foes: Learning to Please The Ones That Matter

In a multitude of voices, it’s important that you determine who you can trust. Not everyone’s opinion should carry the same weight.

via Dennis Yang @ Flickr Creative Commons

via Dennis Yang @ Flickr Creative Commons

We all want to be successful leaders, but the surest way NOT to do that is to try to please too many people at the same time. In this post, I’ll share how to know who to listen to.

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When Life’s Rhythm Begins To Change

From the fun days of childhood, to the stressful times of the teen years. From the shallow relationships of the dating years, to the intimate but simple moments of the married life. Life is always changing, but so often we forget to change with it.

To dress and behave in the winter as though it were spring would seem odd to most. Yet many of us go about our daily routines as we always have, as though our season of life has never changed.

Generations

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001 – 5 Ways To Create More Margin In Your Life

Welcome to the first episode of Practical Principal! In this week’s episode, I share you five strategies for creating more margin in your life. Do you need some breathing room? Feel like the weight of the world is crashing down around you? Then this show is for you.

In this episode, I discuss:

  • My reasons for beginning the show
  • Foolproof signs that you are starting to get too much on your plate
  • How to begin seeing your life from a “bird’s eye view”
  • Strategies for making your calendar a tool for success
  • The most vital kind of appointment you need to start adding to your calendar
  • A strategy to help you win each day with your to-do list
  • Which secret time-suck may be stealing your focus

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How To Keep Working When Your World Is Falling Apart

I’ve made plenty of mistakes when the weight of the world was on my shoulders. The pain of life is certain to hit us all. How you react when you find yourself at the base of a mountain is important. You don’t want issues in your personal life to compound the problem by impacting your work life as well.

via Mic445 @ Flickr Creative Commons

via Mic445 @ Flickr Creative Commons

As I think back on my life, there are many times when I remember barely making it through the day…

I remember going through the motions the day after my wife and I suffered a miscarriage of our first child.

I remember working many times after a night of fighting with my spouse.

I remember feeling the stress of not being able to pay our bills.

I remember making four-hour round trips each night after work to visit my wife and child who had to stay in a hospital for 40 days and nights.

I’ve also sat across the desk from staff who felt their world falling apart. They knew they needed to fix their personal life, but they didn’t want their work to suffer.

They struggled with the death co-worker, someone they had worked with for decades.

They just found out that their husband had cheated and wanted a divorce.

Their adult child called and said that he/she didn’t want to live anymore.

Their doctor notified them the night before that he/she might have cancer.

Their wife had just miscarried a long-anticipated baby. To compound the emotions, today they had to teach that teenager who was nearly full-term pregnant as a result of partying too hard a few months earlier.

So how do you continue working when all you really want to do is bury your head in the sand for the next few months? Here are some quick tips that might help.

1. If appropriate, let your supervisor know that you’re struggling. It’s important that he/she knows that there is a reason you are not at the top of your game. Your boss might even figure out a way to alleviate some of the extra stresses at work for a season so you have the time and energy to focus on what’s most important. Odds are that your boss has had to lead on empty before and should be empathetic.

2. Pick and choose your battles at work. Know that your priorities are different now than they were just days ago. Don’t start arguments or challenge systems or processes when it will only distract you farther from being able to handle your work effectively and to intensely focus on your private problems . Don’t forget that stress will dramatically lower your tolerance level for stupidity.

3. Lean on some trusted co-workers. Honestly, I don’t know that my employees would have survived some of their hardships were it not for the friend next door. Having a colleague who helps carry your burden of responsibility is vital.

4. Get some perspective on life. If you have personal days, it might be a good idea to take at least one of them to get refocused. Put things back in the proper perspective. Are you worrying over facts or fears? You want to make sure that you lower your stress so you can really think clearly and make the best decisions possible.

5. Never forget God’s ability to handle what you can’t. If we were truly alone in this universe, then you would be right to abandon hope. But you have a loving heavenly Father who promises to always watch over you. His intentions for you are good, as He is only good.

Life isn’t always easy. At times, it’s just overwhelming. If you’re in that kind of season in life, rest assured that you will make  it. Keep pressing on and do your work well. You might just come out better on the other side.

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Working With Your Head Up

Enjoying the View on the Way to Success

Attention achievers….Life is more than a mere checklist. I realize that you THINK you understand this, but as a fellow “achiever” and workaholic, progress towards your ultimate goal can push you deeper into the vicious cycle of more.

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via Garry Knight @ Flickr Creative Commons

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